Retirement
Hi Mom,
I'm a bit stunned to see that I've not written in over a year. I swear I have!!! But the record clearly doesn't show that.
I hope you're watching the Red Sox up there. I imagine you're enjoying it. Did you watch the Red Sox with Dad? I don't remember you in there watching any sports with him, but I imagine you went in later in the evening and watched whatever he had on the TV. They're doing well right now, but the game ain't over till it's over.
Anyway, I've not told anyone this particular news, but I simply had to tell you. I went up to visit John's mom yesterday with John. It was her birthday. I knew that his mother wanted to talk to me about something. John told me not to get stressed but I was TOTALLY stressed about it! The last time we talked, she wanted to know why I was mad at her. But I wasn't, and it was really awkward. First she called me on the phone for the answer and then she asked me again in person with John in the room. So when he said she wanted to talk to me, I thought it couldn't be anything good.
Turns out that John knew exactly what it was about, but he wasn't going to tell me. Instead of stressing out, I decided that she wanted to tell me that she was leaving me everything in her will. When I told John that, he laughed. But when we were finally talking, come to find out she wants to give me all of her stocks!! John doesn't want to inherit any stocks (although I don't know why he can't inherit them and then just cash them in so he can have the cash), and his mom wants someone who will keep the money in, I guess. She said it was a good chunk of money. John said it could be around $700,000!!! Holy shit! I did think maybe around $300K, but $700K? That will certainly make life a lot easier, and retirement. And then I was looking at my own money and realized that I really don't have to stress about buying certain things. And I think I could give some bigger donations to the New England Wildlife Center and other charities I care about. John and I are doing just fine without any additional money from his mom, but it will certainly help.
The trickiest part of it, though, is the sisters. The minute his mom dies, his sisters, or at least Nancy, is going to know that the inheritance is going to John and Fran. She likely won't guess that anything is coming directly to me, so actually, maybe that money will be even safer. I just worry that she could decide to make our lives hell. A lot of the stuff won't be going through probate, I don't think, because ownership has already been turned over to Fran and John. Hmmm, I wonder if that's the case on the stocks, too?
It was so awkward when the dad died and I couldn't tell anyone. I don't want to go through that again. Also, maybe Gigi should get a little something. Any money going to me and John will ultimately go to animal charities. It won't get passed any further than us. That's great for the charities. I will really want to donate more money if I have it. I'd like to give $10K to New England Wildlife Center in one lump sum. I'd like to hope that that would give me some access to the wild animals. I'd like to be able to observe some surgeries and other care, and I'd like to try to give some care myself.
It won't be in the will that I'm getting these stocks, so I suppose when the time comes, I have to just leave it up to Fran to actually sign them over to me. I guess he and Jean both thought I might be the right person to give them to. I don't know why Fran wouldn't just take them. He wants to move into the house (which is nuts when he could just buy a house for himself anywhere he wants, but instead, he'd rather take over his mom's house?? Strange. John will be getting cash (CDs and such, I guess), and then the stocks would come to me.
I did suddenly feel like I understood why some people kill their parents to get their inheritances. I have no intention of doing that, but once you know there could be a load of money coming your way when someone dies, there's a feeling of weird greed. I WANT IT NOW!! But things can change, so I shall just continue to live within my means. I think I'll write her a thank you note or something, though. Feels weird to be told that and then not say anything further about it.
OK, so enough about my future riches. :) I hope you are paying close attention to Kim these days. She has back surgery coming up, and she's super nervous, as I would be. Back surgery can be so tricky, and recuperation can take a long time. She said it's outpatient surgery, though, so maybe it's not all that intrusive. Perhaps they just use the scopes.
Time to brush my teeth and watch the last inning of tonight's game (hopefully ... last Friday night they played 18 innings and lost 1-0). Miss you so much!!!
I'm a bit stunned to see that I've not written in over a year. I swear I have!!! But the record clearly doesn't show that.
I hope you're watching the Red Sox up there. I imagine you're enjoying it. Did you watch the Red Sox with Dad? I don't remember you in there watching any sports with him, but I imagine you went in later in the evening and watched whatever he had on the TV. They're doing well right now, but the game ain't over till it's over.
Anyway, I've not told anyone this particular news, but I simply had to tell you. I went up to visit John's mom yesterday with John. It was her birthday. I knew that his mother wanted to talk to me about something. John told me not to get stressed but I was TOTALLY stressed about it! The last time we talked, she wanted to know why I was mad at her. But I wasn't, and it was really awkward. First she called me on the phone for the answer and then she asked me again in person with John in the room. So when he said she wanted to talk to me, I thought it couldn't be anything good.
Turns out that John knew exactly what it was about, but he wasn't going to tell me. Instead of stressing out, I decided that she wanted to tell me that she was leaving me everything in her will. When I told John that, he laughed. But when we were finally talking, come to find out she wants to give me all of her stocks!! John doesn't want to inherit any stocks (although I don't know why he can't inherit them and then just cash them in so he can have the cash), and his mom wants someone who will keep the money in, I guess. She said it was a good chunk of money. John said it could be around $700,000!!! Holy shit! I did think maybe around $300K, but $700K? That will certainly make life a lot easier, and retirement. And then I was looking at my own money and realized that I really don't have to stress about buying certain things. And I think I could give some bigger donations to the New England Wildlife Center and other charities I care about. John and I are doing just fine without any additional money from his mom, but it will certainly help.
The trickiest part of it, though, is the sisters. The minute his mom dies, his sisters, or at least Nancy, is going to know that the inheritance is going to John and Fran. She likely won't guess that anything is coming directly to me, so actually, maybe that money will be even safer. I just worry that she could decide to make our lives hell. A lot of the stuff won't be going through probate, I don't think, because ownership has already been turned over to Fran and John. Hmmm, I wonder if that's the case on the stocks, too?
It was so awkward when the dad died and I couldn't tell anyone. I don't want to go through that again. Also, maybe Gigi should get a little something. Any money going to me and John will ultimately go to animal charities. It won't get passed any further than us. That's great for the charities. I will really want to donate more money if I have it. I'd like to give $10K to New England Wildlife Center in one lump sum. I'd like to hope that that would give me some access to the wild animals. I'd like to be able to observe some surgeries and other care, and I'd like to try to give some care myself.
It won't be in the will that I'm getting these stocks, so I suppose when the time comes, I have to just leave it up to Fran to actually sign them over to me. I guess he and Jean both thought I might be the right person to give them to. I don't know why Fran wouldn't just take them. He wants to move into the house (which is nuts when he could just buy a house for himself anywhere he wants, but instead, he'd rather take over his mom's house?? Strange. John will be getting cash (CDs and such, I guess), and then the stocks would come to me.
I did suddenly feel like I understood why some people kill their parents to get their inheritances. I have no intention of doing that, but once you know there could be a load of money coming your way when someone dies, there's a feeling of weird greed. I WANT IT NOW!! But things can change, so I shall just continue to live within my means. I think I'll write her a thank you note or something, though. Feels weird to be told that and then not say anything further about it.
OK, so enough about my future riches. :) I hope you are paying close attention to Kim these days. She has back surgery coming up, and she's super nervous, as I would be. Back surgery can be so tricky, and recuperation can take a long time. She said it's outpatient surgery, though, so maybe it's not all that intrusive. Perhaps they just use the scopes.
Time to brush my teeth and watch the last inning of tonight's game (hopefully ... last Friday night they played 18 innings and lost 1-0). Miss you so much!!!
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